ENJOY YOUR LIFE
Hear i am to conclude the book {Enjoy your life } that i have read for the last two weeks wich was about islamic religion especially our prophet peace be up on him .
The book was an exquisite collection of incidents from the life of our prophet (pbuh) . Stories from our islamic Heritage , and thought-provoking anecdotes from the life of the author .The aim of the book is to train the readers to enjoy living his/her life by practicing various self -development and interpersonal skills.
What si so compelling and inspiring about this book is that , in order to highlight the benifit of using social skills , the author draws from the lives of the prophet {pbuh} and his companions .
This book is both a practical systemic guide to self-improvement and a treasure trove of historical incidents . It increases self -awareness ,whilst returning the soul and strenghtening the spirit.
And finally after i read this book i found the best ways to enjoy life and simply it's about tpo follow our islamis religion and the examples that our prophet given to us in order to apply our lives .
Friday 10 June 2011
ALL ABOUT RELATIONSHIP S
Not good at relationships ! don't know where to start !
relationships begin with you , becouse you are half of any relationship you join . So start with yourself ! Don't count on a relationship to "cure" a poor self -image . It won't work .But here are some measures that can :
. Make an inventory of your best , most attractive qualities and affirm them to yourself often .
. Avoid unrealistic standards and all-or -nothing thinking :"if i don't make an A on every test , i'm a total failure ".
. Challenge yourself ro accept and absorb compliments : A simple "thank-you " raises self-steem ; negations, such as , "you like this outfit? I think it makes me look dumpy ", lower self-esteem .
. Remmember that there are no guarantees . Making gains requires taking risks . Seek out new experience and people ; then approach them with openness and curiosity . Each is an opportunity.
. Don't expect oevernight success . Close friendships and intimate love relationships both take time to develop.
relationships begin with you , becouse you are half of any relationship you join . So start with yourself ! Don't count on a relationship to "cure" a poor self -image . It won't work .But here are some measures that can :
. Make an inventory of your best , most attractive qualities and affirm them to yourself often .
. Avoid unrealistic standards and all-or -nothing thinking :"if i don't make an A on every test , i'm a total failure ".
. Challenge yourself ro accept and absorb compliments : A simple "thank-you " raises self-steem ; negations, such as , "you like this outfit? I think it makes me look dumpy ", lower self-esteem .
. Remmember that there are no guarantees . Making gains requires taking risks . Seek out new experience and people ; then approach them with openness and curiosity . Each is an opportunity.
. Don't expect oevernight success . Close friendships and intimate love relationships both take time to develop.
An article about the book i've read ,,,,(Grief ..................... )
What is grief?
Grief is a natural , normal response to the loss of something or someone we love . Although we often expect to grieve the death of a family member or friend , many other significant losses can also trigger grief.
Examples include
.The end of a relationship
.A move to a new community .
.A much-anti cipated opportunity or life goal wich is suddenly closed to us .
.The death of a pet .
.Some one we love contracts a potentially life-threatening illness.
Grieving is the process through wich a person comes to terms emotionally , spiritually , physically and mentally with such loses . It's important that we allow ourselves to grieve as this enables us to free-up energy that is bound to the lost person , object , or experience . This energy can be re -invested elsewhere . Untill we grieve effectively we are likely to find reinvesting difficult becouse a part of us remains tied to the past .
Grieveing is not forgetting . Healthy grieving results in an ability to remmember the importance of the loss with a new-found sense of peace rather than intense pain . Healthy grieving is an active process ; it is not true that ," you just need to give it time ".
Grief is a natural , normal response to the loss of something or someone we love . Although we often expect to grieve the death of a family member or friend , many other significant losses can also trigger grief.
Examples include
.The end of a relationship
.A move to a new community .
.A much-anti cipated opportunity or life goal wich is suddenly closed to us .
.The death of a pet .
.Some one we love contracts a potentially life-threatening illness.
Grieving is the process through wich a person comes to terms emotionally , spiritually , physically and mentally with such loses . It's important that we allow ourselves to grieve as this enables us to free-up energy that is bound to the lost person , object , or experience . This energy can be re -invested elsewhere . Untill we grieve effectively we are likely to find reinvesting difficult becouse a part of us remains tied to the past .
Grieveing is not forgetting . Healthy grieving results in an ability to remmember the importance of the loss with a new-found sense of peace rather than intense pain . Healthy grieving is an active process ; it is not true that ," you just need to give it time ".
About Africa .............
Africa cosnists of 54 countries and newly born South sudan 2011 and a 20 years old self declared peaceful country in Horn of Africa (Repuplic of somaliland ) wich is not yet get an international recognition from the UN .
The population of Africa is estimated more than 797 million of people and the languages spoken in Africa are over 10,000languages .
Geographically Africa is to the south Europe and it's between the Atlantic in the west and the Indian occean in the east . The sahara desert is to thenorth of the continent .Africa is 8,000 km from top to bottom and 7,400 km from side to side ,
Best way to cope Homesickness
What is the best way that we can cope our homesickness as a student ?
The fact is that , there is no single appraoch that is best for every one .How aver , there are several considerations wich can be helpful in dealing with homesickness .
Homesickness is a normal and common response that is experienced to some degree by the majority of students who live home for the first time . Home sickness is characterized by the discomforting feelings of missing family and friends , loneliness, self doupt , concentration problems and preoccupation with returning home.
Understanding why these feelings develop can be helpful in dealing with them . commonly , home is a place where on feels accepted and secure .
There are some basic strategies wich have proven effective in moderating the effectsof homesickness .
1. Remmember that hemosickness is a temporary for most students .
2. Give youself some time to adjust to your new surroundings .
3.Get involved with other students , classes , and student activities ,
4. Call or write home , but avoid getting into the habit of going home every holiday or weekend
5.Talk about your feelings a friend , peer helper or councelle
The fact is that , there is no single appraoch that is best for every one .How aver , there are several considerations wich can be helpful in dealing with homesickness .
Homesickness is a normal and common response that is experienced to some degree by the majority of students who live home for the first time . Home sickness is characterized by the discomforting feelings of missing family and friends , loneliness, self doupt , concentration problems and preoccupation with returning home.
Understanding why these feelings develop can be helpful in dealing with them . commonly , home is a place where on feels accepted and secure .
There are some basic strategies wich have proven effective in moderating the effectsof homesickness .
1. Remmember that hemosickness is a temporary for most students .
2. Give youself some time to adjust to your new surroundings .
3.Get involved with other students , classes , and student activities ,
4. Call or write home , but avoid getting into the habit of going home every holiday or weekend
5.Talk about your feelings a friend , peer helper or councelle
Adjusting to university life
Homesickness
For many students this will be the first time you have experienced living away from home for a sustained period and you may find yourself missing family and friends a lot . This is simply becouse you are naturally attached to familiar people and places . The problem can be complicated further for international students by the culture shock of living in a new country.
Home sickness often goes away naturally in the first weeks of term as you invest your attention and energy in the new challenges of your course and social life . The university environment can become familiar pretty quickly , wich tends to give a sense of calm and control .
Your home sickness may continue if you are struggling to find your niche , or if there are problems at home that you are worrying about . If you still feel homesick after a few weeks, don't lose confidence that you can adjust to living independently from home . You may have difficult points , but this is part of the huge transition process that you are in .
For many students this will be the first time you have experienced living away from home for a sustained period and you may find yourself missing family and friends a lot . This is simply becouse you are naturally attached to familiar people and places . The problem can be complicated further for international students by the culture shock of living in a new country.
Home sickness often goes away naturally in the first weeks of term as you invest your attention and energy in the new challenges of your course and social life . The university environment can become familiar pretty quickly , wich tends to give a sense of calm and control .
Tuesday 7 June 2011
Do not care about what people say
There is an old saying ''If people had the same taste, merchandise would be rendered futile.''
It is said Juha once mounted on his donkey while is son walked by his side . As they passed by a group of people , the people said "look at this inconsiderate father ! he rides the donkey in comfort while hi son is walking by him in the sun !" Juha heard them stopped the donkey ,dismounted and let his son ride instead .
They continued on , and as juha felt better about himself ,they passed by another group of people .One of them said "look at this disobedient son ! He rides while leaving his father to walk in the sun !" juha heard them , stopped his donkey and mounted it along with his son to save himself from people's criticism.
They then passed by a people who said ," look at these inconsiderate people ! they do not have a pity on the animal !'' juha then dismounted and said to his son ''Dear son , please descend ." the son discended and began to walk by hsi father's side .
They passed some people who said ,"look at these two folish people ! They are walking whilst no one is riding the donkey ! Why was the donkey created if not to be mounted on ?''
Juha screamed , and dragged his son .They sat beneath the donkey the donkey and lifted it up on their shoulders !
Conclusion
If i had been with him at the time , I would have said to him , " Dear beloved , do as you please do not care about what others have to say . Pleasing others is an unachievable objective ."
Generally speaking ,
A man is never with out opponent if if he lives alone on a mountain peak , Do not punish yourself.
Experiance
One of the predecessors said ," The one who subjects his religion to argumentation changes his opinions very often .
It is said Juha once mounted on his donkey while is son walked by his side . As they passed by a group of people , the people said "look at this inconsiderate father ! he rides the donkey in comfort while hi son is walking by him in the sun !" Juha heard them stopped the donkey ,dismounted and let his son ride instead .
They continued on , and as juha felt better about himself ,they passed by another group of people .One of them said "look at this disobedient son ! He rides while leaving his father to walk in the sun !" juha heard them , stopped his donkey and mounted it along with his son to save himself from people's criticism.
They then passed by a people who said ," look at these inconsiderate people ! they do not have a pity on the animal !'' juha then dismounted and said to his son ''Dear son , please descend ." the son discended and began to walk by hsi father's side .
They passed some people who said ,"look at these two folish people ! They are walking whilst no one is riding the donkey ! Why was the donkey created if not to be mounted on ?''
Juha screamed , and dragged his son .They sat beneath the donkey the donkey and lifted it up on their shoulders !
Conclusion
If i had been with him at the time , I would have said to him , " Dear beloved , do as you please do not care about what others have to say . Pleasing others is an unachievable objective ."
Generally speaking ,
A man is never with out opponent if if he lives alone on a mountain peak , Do not punish yourself.
Experiance
One of the predecessors said ," The one who subjects his religion to argumentation changes his opinions very often .
Monday 6 June 2011
Report (plan to visit sa'adadin island)......... Somaliland !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Introduction The main objective of this report is to endorse that the sa 'adadin island is as an interesting place for tourism and vacation in somaliland especially a place that we can visit while staying in East Africa as its the only unique island in the region .
Background
The sa'adadin island is just discovered as an tourism source in the country becouse of the longlasting wars and aggressions continuing for the last two decades , but it;s ready for reconstraction at the same time its home to hundreds of species of plants and animals in the region .
Attractions
The island lies the red sea ,facing the Gulf of Aden ,its a large area covered by large forests and its the specil location that we can find different plnt species in the whole region .
Practical information
The island is free for every one who wants to invest or make it more convenient ,comfortable and luxurious in the future . Its recommended that you take a map and stay on marked paths as it is easy to get lost .
Sunday 5 June 2011
Malaysian wedding cermony .........
It was very interseting and very important to participate and take part malaysian wedding cermony for me and for all the AIU students as a foriegners to know some thing about the culture, costume and even the marriage of the country that we live in and the society that we stay in them .
marriage in malaysia is different than many other countries including my country for several points like the way they arrange and orgnize the cermony the way they preparethe special food and even the way they welcome their guests .
the only and the most important point i feel was how the neighbours help each other in this sitution and how much they are kind to each other , i enjoyed the party, the food , the celebration and even meeting with new couples .
It was very good experiance for me to know about malaysian marriage and celebrations of both families .
marriage in malaysia is different than many other countries including my country for several points like the way they arrange and orgnize the cermony the way they preparethe special food and even the way they welcome their guests .
the only and the most important point i feel was how the neighbours help each other in this sitution and how much they are kind to each other , i enjoyed the party, the food , the celebration and even meeting with new couples .
It was very good experiance for me to know about malaysian marriage and celebrations of both families .
Friday 3 June 2011
Presantation about Nepal !!!!!!!!!!!
As usual every friday noon we have a weekly AIU student meeting to take annnouncements and ideas from student affairs and AIU administration group .
but after a couple of weeks ago we started a programme about informations of every country ,so that students from defferent countries can talk about thier different cultures , languages , religions ,customs ,foods and beverages and even the location of their countries including weather ,tourism ,resources and so on .
today 03 june 2011 we take ideas and information about the students from Nepal wich is 97% non muslim society ,we saw how they behave , how they eat , how they celebrate , how wear clothes ,how they worship their gods .
the most interesting point was the tourism in Nepal and the highest mountains in this world like Himalayas and mount everest , as they said 2011 is the year of tourism in N epal nad there was a lot of activity to do .
but after a couple of weeks ago we started a programme about informations of every country ,so that students from defferent countries can talk about thier different cultures , languages , religions ,customs ,foods and beverages and even the location of their countries including weather ,tourism ,resources and so on .
today 03 june 2011 we take ideas and information about the students from Nepal wich is 97% non muslim society ,we saw how they behave , how they eat , how they celebrate , how wear clothes ,how they worship their gods .
the most interesting point was the tourism in Nepal and the highest mountains in this world like Himalayas and mount everest , as they said 2011 is the year of tourism in N epal nad there was a lot of activity to do .
Thursday 2 June 2011
How can you increase your self-accceptance
Self-acceptance, we discuss about this topic in our weekly peer buddy meeting today 02 June 2011, it was very interesting and benifitable for us as a student and as a peer buddy memebr to evaluate our selves before we help others .
how can you increase your self acceptance was very difficult question first but after long disscussion we understand some thing about it and even some thing has changed our lives at the same momment .
before we answered this question we disscusssed some other questions which were introduction our topic and they were like this How important is this to me ?
What are my true feelings about this?
Am i able to change my point of view?
Am i able to change my behaviour or feelings about this?
There are no right or wrong answers to any of these questios when discussing your self and your feelings .It's more important to get a true picture of youe self than to worry about what others might think or what's good or bad . You want to know your own strengths , weaknesses , values , skills , abilities , and interests .
at the same we did some quizes in our meeting to find more details about this, the first quiz was about self concept and the main objective was to understand your self better .
aware of your weaknesses and strengths.
help your self to be true .
the socond was about self assessment activity and the main purpose was acknowledge your good points .
and finally we decided to meet our next session in more details inha allah !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
how can you increase your self acceptance was very difficult question first but after long disscussion we understand some thing about it and even some thing has changed our lives at the same momment .
before we answered this question we disscusssed some other questions which were introduction our topic and they were like this How important is this to me ?
What are my true feelings about this?
Am i able to change my point of view?
Am i able to change my behaviour or feelings about this?
There are no right or wrong answers to any of these questios when discussing your self and your feelings .It's more important to get a true picture of youe self than to worry about what others might think or what's good or bad . You want to know your own strengths , weaknesses , values , skills , abilities , and interests .
at the same we did some quizes in our meeting to find more details about this, the first quiz was about self concept and the main objective was to understand your self better .
aware of your weaknesses and strengths.
help your self to be true .
the socond was about self assessment activity and the main purpose was acknowledge your good points .
and finally we decided to meet our next session in more details inha allah !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wednesday 1 June 2011
Short story........THE SALTY COFFEE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He met her at a party. She was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he was so normal, nobody paid attention to him.
At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him, she was surprised but due to being polite, she promised. They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, and she thought to herself, "Please, let me go home..."
Suddenly he asked the waiter, "Would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee." Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red but still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously, "Why you have this hobby?" He replied, "When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea, I liked playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there." While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home... Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family.
That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. They continued to date. She found that actually he was a man who meets all her demands; he had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee! Then the story was just like every beautiful love story, the princess married to the prince, and then they were living the happy life... And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way he liked it.
After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said, "My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life's lie. This was the only lie I said to you---the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything... Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth, I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste... But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again."
Her tears made the letter totally wet. Someday, someone asked her, "What's the taste of salty coffee?" She replied, "It's sweet."
At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him, she was surprised but due to being polite, she promised. They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, and she thought to herself, "Please, let me go home..."
Suddenly he asked the waiter, "Would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee." Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red but still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously, "Why you have this hobby?" He replied, "When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea, I liked playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there." While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home... Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family.
That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. They continued to date. She found that actually he was a man who meets all her demands; he had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee! Then the story was just like every beautiful love story, the princess married to the prince, and then they were living the happy life... And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way he liked it.
After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said, "My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life's lie. This was the only lie I said to you---the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything... Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth, I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste... But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again."
Her tears made the letter totally wet. Someday, someone asked her, "What's the taste of salty coffee?" She replied, "It's sweet."
three things i loathe studying abroad !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Education and knowledge changed our world from illiteracy to literacy and also helped us to improve our familiarity with a different aspects of knowledge and the same time there is an increase and development of day after another , to have a knowledge is very important and essential even if it can lead us to travel abroud countries to find it .
i am one of those people who had already travelled to find better education ,but after i experianced a couple of months i realize that there is some difficults and obstacles when you are studying or living abroad ,and here i display my top three gripes.
firstly the most difficult on is the language ,its not easy to study simply a language that you never heard before even a single word and at the sam time you need it very much to speak very quickly as soon as you arrive to speak and communicate the locals properly when you are buying the super markets ,eating the puplic places ,studying ,and even greeting the people ant thats why you need their language .
secondly after you arrive abroad country it's sure that you will miss your country and close friends ,becouse every one can feel the situation where ther is no close relationship .
lastly it's very difficult to adapt and conform the new social live including food , clothing , communicating , you can imagine the result when you eat a food that you haven't eaten before at least you may have stomach up set .
unfortunately these problems are unlikely to go away ,you just need to do your best and try to adapy every thing ,you don't need to give easily becouse its only specific time you may go back your lovely home toen after you finish your studies ...................
i am one of those people who had already travelled to find better education ,but after i experianced a couple of months i realize that there is some difficults and obstacles when you are studying or living abroad ,and here i display my top three gripes.
firstly the most difficult on is the language ,its not easy to study simply a language that you never heard before even a single word and at the sam time you need it very much to speak very quickly as soon as you arrive to speak and communicate the locals properly when you are buying the super markets ,eating the puplic places ,studying ,and even greeting the people ant thats why you need their language .
secondly after you arrive abroad country it's sure that you will miss your country and close friends ,becouse every one can feel the situation where ther is no close relationship .
lastly it's very difficult to adapt and conform the new social live including food , clothing , communicating , you can imagine the result when you eat a food that you haven't eaten before at least you may have stomach up set .
unfortunately these problems are unlikely to go away ,you just need to do your best and try to adapy every thing ,you don't need to give easily becouse its only specific time you may go back your lovely home toen after you finish your studies ...................
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