Friday 10 June 2011

SUMMERY OF THE BOOK I'VE READ

ENJOY YOUR LIFE
Hear i am to conclude the book {Enjoy your life } that i have read for  the last two weeks wich was about islamic religion especially our prophet peace be up on him .
The book was an exquisite collection of incidents from the life of our prophet (pbuh) . Stories from our islamic Heritage , and thought-provoking anecdotes from the life of the author .The aim of the book  is to train the readers to enjoy living his/her life by practicing various self -development and interpersonal skills.
What si so compelling and inspiring about this book is that , in order to highlight  the benifit of using social skills , the author draws from the lives of the prophet {pbuh} and his companions .
This book is both a practical systemic guide to self-improvement and a treasure trove of historical incidents . It increases self -awareness ,whilst returning the soul and strenghtening the spirit.
And finally after i read this book i found the best ways to enjoy life and simply it's about tpo follow our islamis religion and the examples that our prophet given to us in order to apply our lives .

ALL ABOUT RELATIONSHIP S

Not good at relationships ! don't know where to start !
relationships begin with you , becouse you are half of any relationship you join . So start with yourself ! Don't count on a relationship to "cure" a poor self -image . It won't work .But here are some measures that can :
. Make an inventory of your best , most attractive qualities and affirm them to yourself often .
. Avoid unrealistic standards and all-or -nothing thinking :"if i don't make an A on every test , i'm a total failure ".
. Challenge yourself ro accept and absorb compliments : A simple "thank-you " raises self-steem ; negations, such as , "you like this outfit? I think it makes me look dumpy ", lower self-esteem .
. Remmember that there are no guarantees . Making gains requires  taking risks . Seek out new experience and people ; then approach them with openness and curiosity . Each is an opportunity.
. Don't expect oevernight success . Close friendships and intimate love relationships both take time to develop.

An article about the book i've read ,,,,(Grief ..................... )

What is grief?
Grief is a natural , normal response to the loss of something  or someone we love . Although we often expect to grieve the death of a family member or friend , many other significant losses can also trigger grief.
Examples include
.The end of a relationship
.A move to a new community .
.A much-anti cipated opportunity or life goal wich is suddenly closed to us .
.The death of a pet .
.Some one we love contracts a potentially life-threatening illness.
 Grieving is the process through wich a person comes to terms emotionally , spiritually , physically and  mentally with such loses . It's important  that we allow ourselves to grieve as this enables us to free-up energy that is bound to the lost person , object , or experience . This energy can be re -invested elsewhere . Untill we grieve effectively we are likely to find reinvesting difficult becouse a part of us remains tied to the past .
Grieveing is not forgetting . Healthy grieving results in an ability to remmember the importance of the loss with a new-found sense of peace rather than intense pain . Healthy grieving is an active process ; it is not true that ," you just need to give it time ".

About Africa .............

 Africa cosnists of 54 countries and newly born South sudan 2011 and a 20 years old self declared peaceful country in Horn of Africa (Repuplic of somaliland ) wich is not yet get an international recognition from the UN .
The population of Africa is estimated more than 797 million of people and the languages spoken in Africa are  over 10,000languages .
Geographically Africa is to the south Europe and it's between the Atlantic in the west and the Indian occean in the east . The sahara desert is to thenorth of the continent .
Africa is 8,000 km from top to bottom and 7,400 km from side to side ,

Best way to cope Homesickness

What is the best way that we can cope our homesickness as a student ?
The fact is that , there is no single appraoch that is best for every one .How aver , there are several considerations wich can be helpful in dealing with homesickness .
Homesickness is a normal and common response that is experienced to some degree by the majority of students who live home for the first time . Home sickness is characterized by the discomforting feelings of missing family and friends , loneliness, self doupt , concentration problems and preoccupation with returning home.
Understanding why these feelings develop can be helpful in dealing with them . commonly , home is a place where on feels accepted and secure .
There are some basic strategies wich have proven effective in moderating the effectsof homesickness .
1. Remmember that hemosickness is a temporary for most students .
2. Give youself some time to adjust to your new surroundings .
3.Get involved with other students , classes , and student activities ,
4. Call or write home , but avoid getting into the habit of going home every holiday or weekend
5.Talk about your feelings a friend , peer helper or councelle
   

Adjusting to university life

Homesickness  
For many students this will be the first time you have experienced living away from home for a sustained period and you may find yourself missing family and friends a lot . This is simply becouse you are naturally attached to familiar people and places . The problem can be complicated further for international students by the culture shock of living in a new country.
Home sickness often goes away naturally in the first weeks of term as you invest your attention and energy in the new challenges of your course and social life . The university environment can become familiar pretty quickly , wich tends to give a sense of calm and control .
Your home sickness may continue if you are struggling to find your niche , or if there are problems at home that you are worrying about . If  you still feel homesick after a few weeks, don't lose confidence that you can adjust to living independently from home . You may have difficult points , but this is part of the huge transition process that you are in .

Tuesday 7 June 2011

Do not care about what people say

There is an old saying ''If people had the same taste, merchandise would be rendered futile.''
It is said Juha once mounted on his donkey while is son walked by his side . As they passed by a group of people , the people said "look at this inconsiderate father ! he rides the donkey in comfort while hi son is walking by him in the sun !"  Juha heard them stopped the donkey ,dismounted and let his son ride instead .
They continued on , and as juha felt better about himself ,they passed by another group of people .One of them said "look at this disobedient  son ! He rides while leaving his father to walk in the sun !" juha heard them , stopped his donkey and mounted it along with his son to save himself from people's criticism.
They  then passed  by a people who said ," look at these inconsiderate people !  they do not have a pity on the animal !'' juha then dismounted and said to his son ''Dear son , please descend ." the son discended and began to walk by hsi father's side .
They passed some people who said ,"look at these two folish people ! They are walking  whilst no one is riding the donkey ! Why was the donkey created if not to be mounted on ?'' 
Juha screamed , and dragged his son .They sat beneath the  donkey the donkey and lifted it up on their shoulders !
Conclusion
If i had been with him at the time , I would have said to him , " Dear beloved , do as you please do not care about what others have to say . Pleasing others is an unachievable objective ."
Generally speaking ,
A man is never with out opponent if if he lives alone on a mountain peak , Do not punish yourself.
Experiance
One of the predecessors said ," The one who subjects his religion to argumentation changes his opinions very often .